We are our own worst enemies. Part 9 of Core 9 questions…

Day 5

When we ask ourselves what we would advise a friend in our position it is quite often much easier to come up with the answer. This is because we are much less fixated on the potential negative consequences for our friends.

If you are somebody who fears others thinking less of you if you fail or are more compassionate/encouraging to your friends than you are to yourself then you need to read on…

How I know holding different standards is true is that often when a friend tells me something embarassing that happened to them, I genuinely laugh it off and tell them not to worry. When I do the silly thing, I have been guilty in the past of berating myself for it…

We may want to focus on risk avoidance for ourselves rather than reward seeking. It is sometimes easier to encourage others to take the brave and proactive steps…

In essence this question brings us to the answer that is most intuitive to our confident selves because fear of being judged for failure is removed from the equation. More often than not this is the best solution.

You know the old adage – it’s easier to give advice than take it!

The other element to this is that it can be good to talk to an unbiased friend and just verbalise your issues and potential solutions. They might offer some insightful comments and questions or just be a nice sounding board. You may even ask them to keep you accountable on any important action points you decide.

Declan “Life” Treanor

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